How Comments Create Better Conversations

One complaint we hear is that it’s hard to get people to respond to messages. But, if we’re being honest, a lot of the conversation starters we’ve seen aren’t engaging enough to warrant a reply! (Sorry bestie, just being honest.) So let’s look at how to have better conversations by using one of our favorite free features: Comments.

What Are Comments?

Comments allow you to start a conversation in an organic way. You can comment on almost any aspect of someone’s profile – their pictures, their bio, etc.

How Do I Use Comments?

To leave a comment, look for the heart icon on someone’s profile. This can be found in the bottom right corner of the first page of their profile.

Tap on the heart to see the following menu pop up.

Tap “Send a Comment”  and a textbox will appear. Type your comment into the text box and hit “Send Like & Comment.”

Doing so is the equivalent of swiping up on them AND sending them a message at the same time. They won’t see your message unless they also swipe up on you, but if you match, your message will automatically be the first thing they see in your conversation together.

You can also look for the heart icon in their profile information. Tap on the heart icon to leave a comment on that specific aspect of their profile. 

See something else you want to talk about that doesn’t have a heart next to it? Long tap on that aspect of their profile and the pop up menu will appear. Tap on the “Send a Comment” option and you’ll be able to comment on that specific aspect of their profile.

How To Leave Better Comments

There are a few things to keep in mind when sending comments.

1. Make them conversational. If you just say “hi” or “nice” or some other one-word comment then there’s nothing prompting the other person to engage in conversation with you. Instead, use this format: greeting, validation, follow-up question.

Example: “Hey! That is so cool that you run marathons! What’s your fastest time?”

Example: “Hi Karlie! That is the cutest dog I’ve ever seen. What kind is he?”

Formatting your comments in this way shows that you are interested in what the other person has shared on their profile and that you want to learn more about them. It also gives them an opportunity to reply and start a conversation instead of wondering what they should say.

2. People like extremes. Exaggerate your compliments. We’re not saying to lie, but people like to feel special. Phrases such as “the cutest” or “most amazing” will catch people’s attention. Just don’t overdo it because it could get creepy. 

3. Be original. Don’t say something that Johnny said to his match because you know it worked for him. Be genuine and sincere in your comments and compliments. Say something that is personal to them and will show that they aren’t just another face in your line of swipes.

4. Find common interests. Take time to actually look at their photos and read their bio. What do you have in common? Finding a mutual interest is a great way to start a conversation and spark a relationship. If you already have something in common when you match, it makes you instantly more relatable to that person and more likely to receive a response.

Give It A Try

Comments tend to be a little bit more work because there’s no guarantee that the other person will see your message. (If you want to send a message that they’re guaranteed to see, try sending a Note! Learn more about Notes here.) But starting off your conversation the right way can really pay off in the end.

There’s no perfect answer that will get you a response 100% of the time. You just aren’t going to be some people’s cup of herbal tea and that’s okay! But the more relatable you are and the more you act like a real person interacting with another real person instead of just swiping through pictures on the app, the more successful you will be.

Kaleigh Adamson
Marketing Coordinator at Mutual | + posts

Kaleigh is a Marketing Coordinator for Mutual. She has worked with couples, relationships, dating, and love in a creative role for over a decade. She's a hopeless romantic who loves that her career allows her to help people find their soulmates. She downloaded Mutual when it first launched in 2016, coincidentally the same year she met her husband! They now live happily ever after in South Carolina with their two kids and dog.

Kaleigh is a Marketing Coordinator for Mutual. She has worked with couples, relationships, dating, and love in a creative role for over a decade. She's a hopeless romantic who loves that her career allows her to help people find their soulmates. She downloaded Mutual when it first launched in 2016, coincidentally the same year she met her husband! They now live happily ever after in South Carolina with their two kids and dog.

3 Comments

  1. Twos company Reply

    I really enjoyed reading about how comments can create better conversations on the Mutual blog. It’s refreshing to see a company actively encouraging thoughtful and respectful discourse among their users. The article provides some great tips on how to engage in productive discussions online.

  2. Maria Follosco Reply

    I couldn’t agree more with the importance of comments in creating better conversations online. As the blog post highlights, comments have the power to build community, foster meaningful connections, and spark new ideas. And with the rise of social media and online platforms, comments have become more essential than ever in facilitating these kinds of interactions. That’s why a site like Alua is so valuable – it provides a platform that encourages and amplifies user-generated content, including comments, in a fun and engaging way. With Alua, users can create immersive and interactive experiences that invite others to share their thoughts and ideas, building a sense of community and connection that goes beyond traditional comments. I think this kind of platform is exactly what we need to cultivate more meaningful conversations online, and I’m excited to see how it continues to evolve.

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